7 WAYS TO REBUILD A BROKEN TRUST
Trust is essential in any form of relationship be it business, romantic or even platonic, but under certain circumstances more often than not, trust is broken and mostly leads to the end of relationships.
To begin, it may be helpful to think of trust as a decision that must be made. You can’t compel anyone to trust you. just as you don’t trust anyone until they demonstrate that they are deserving of your trust. you however must times give people the benefit of the doubt hence trusting them at the start until the behave otherwise.
Most people believe its almost impossible to regain trust once its broken and you might agree but try these 7 steps first to be sure
Here are 7 ways to rebuild a broken trust.
APOLOGISE SINCERELY AND SPECIFICALLY
A sincere and specific apology is certainly a good start to amending a broken trust. Just uttering the words “I’m sorry” most times isn’t enough. When apologizing especially for breaking a trust, you don’t just say the words “I’m sorry” you state the reason you’re sorry.
An example would be if you lied to your partner about anything, your apology should sound something like this…
‘I’m sorry I lied to you about xyz, I didn’t mean to hurt you, I promise never to let this repeat itself’
That’s an apology
TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY
A lot of times we apologize but don’t take responsibility which leaves a tendency for that situation to repeat itself.
How do you take responsibility?
An example would be something like,
“ I know I hurt you by lying to you about XYZ, I can’t imagine how that makes you feel, if there’s anything I can do to fix this, please tell me”
It’s a bit difficult to repeat a wrong when you’ve apologized and taken full responsibility for your actions.
Wouldn’t you agree?
The guilt of wrong if not handled with care can ruin a perfect relationship even when the offended has offered forgiveness.
So you make a conscious effort to forgive yourself for hurting someone and losing their trust in the process.
When you forgive yourself for breaking a trust, it frees you to put in work to rebuild and regain the person’s trust, rather than hide away in guilt and shame.
BE GUIDED BY YOUR PARTNERS NEEDS
Depending on the individual you’re dealing with, most people need space and time alone to think things through,
Just give them the space, what you can do at a time like this is to really stay away but close. Speak to them at this time in their love language.
Don’t feel entitled to their forgiveness, allow it come to you at their pace.
ASK FOR HELP
A lot of times, it’s quite difficult rebuilding a broken trust alone, and it’s perfectly okay to reach out for help.
You would definitely need someone to put in a good word for you and it would help if the person is a parent, a long time mutual friend or an elder who is credible.
COMMIT TO OPEN COMMUNICATION
Your partner would definitely have questions bugging them, it’s in your place to answer them as openly as possible.
Ensure you understand the level to which they want to communicate and let the information you give out at this time be the truth cause this stage is always a determining factor to the decision your partner would make.
ALLOW YOUR PARTNER HEAL
This is solely dependent on your partner, so don’t force their healing process and don’t try to rush them.
Sometimes you have to be careful that your actions don’t pose as a trigger and when a trigger happens, don’t flip, remember it’s a process and give it time.
Rebuilding a broken trust is a process that needs extra patience, love, commitment and sacrifice, it’s a process where no ego is needed but total vulnerability.
Let these tips guide you and you’ll surely be on your way to building and regaining your partners’ trust once again.